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Keeping the Romance Alive in our Marriage

“Honor Christ by submitting to each other” (Ephesians 5:21).

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Marvin and I have been married for over 46 years. We have lived, slept, worked, played, prayed, traveled and eaten together for that many years.

Marvin travels at least 30 percent of each year – probably more. When he is away, he calls me most evenings and his voice still thrills me. I still think he has the most wonderful smile in the world, a calm, gentle voice and the most friendly eyes. And I still love his touch.

Keeping it Interesting!
First I'll tell you what he does to keep our romance alive, then I'll tell you what I do to keep our marriage interesting and exciting.

He does and says kind things. He tells me many times a day that he loves me and that I am beautiful. He kisses and hugs me a lot. At night, because he knows I like to take a bath, the bathwater is usually in the tub and the room is nice and warm. He often brings me flowers. He opens doors for me. When in a group meeting he winks at me and it still gives me a thrill.

Keeping it Exciting!
I cook his favorite meals - especially after a trip when he has been eating in restaurants for days. I keep his clothes in A-1 condition so he is always ready to meet anyone. I tell him he is handsome and looks sharp. I take care of many of the small housekeeping details at home so he doesn't have to concern himself with them.

He likes me to touch him and kiss him when we are alone.

Some evenings when we are at home alone and watching TV or a video, I will put my head on his lap.

In public places, a touch or squeeze on the arm communicates, "I love you!" without saying a word. When he is relaxing and has his feet up, I never walk by without tickling his feet.

We have fun. We laugh a lot.

We have spiritual discussions. Over breakfast we usually discuss what God has pointed out to us during our quiet times and we pray together.

We work at trying to please each other rather than insisting on having our own needs met.

Our love for each other is still growing and glowing. You see, romance doesn’t start in bed, it begins first thing in the morning. The way you greet each other in the morning, how you treat and talk to each other during the day. Then when you go to bed, it is natural to want to snuggle.

Try some of these tips – maybe they will help ignite or strengthen the romance in your marriage as well.

Father, thank You for my husband. Help me to the kind of wife You want me to be. Amen.

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Katherine Kehler, Co-Director and Publisher, has been a staff member with Campus Crusade for Christ for 30 years. An innovator and entrepreneur, she has launched and developed many successful ministries. Among them are Canadian Prayer Alert, Women In Leadership, Women Today, Women Today Magazine and Women Today Online. Katherine has written and published a book, When Dreams Come True:  Women Today Online. In October of the same year she was included in The Celebration of Women, a book that profiled influential Christian leaders from around the world. She currently serves as the director for two websites: www.retirementwithapurpose and www.secretsofsuccess.com.