Announcing the Engagement

Recently, my mother called me and said that my sister and her new fiance are wondering why I have not called to congratulate them. In short, I said they won't get a call because my sister and I have been estranged for twenty years. I don't like her; I don't like her boyfriend. I'm not asking you to solve our feud, I just want to know the etiquette rule. When there is an engagement, who is supposed to call whom?  

This isn't a question in my mind of etiquette. It's a matter of how long are you going to live and how long do you want to not talk to people? There are some people I encourage others not to talk to-the one who molested them, abused them, etc. For most other things, I encourage people to practice forgiveness. Lack of forgiveness mostly hurts the one who has a hard time forgiving. If I've been estranged from someone for 20 years, I would think that I have written them out of my life and gone on to other friends. I'm wondering why this issue concerns you now? I guess I'm confused. Most people hurt other people. You will probably enjoy the book Safe People by Henry Cloud. Let me know what you think of it.

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